What are Anger Issues?
When you are growing up and going through your teenage years you feel a variety of emotions and it is normal and healthy to feel angry when there is good reason. Sometimes, young people feel angry and they don’t know why. It is important to do something with those feelings, but losing our temper can make things worse.
You may have anger issues if you:-
- Hit or physically hurt other people
- Shout at other people
- Mix with people who get you into trouble
- Break things
- Lose control
- Wind people up
Anger issues can lead to other problems such as eating problems, depression, risky behaviour, refusing to go to school, becoming isolated, harming ourselves, drinking too much alcohol or taking drugs. These are ways of dealing with our anger issues but can make us feel worse and is likely to create bigger problems later on.
You may feel angry because you have problems at school or at home, you might have fallen out with a friend or boyfriend or girlfriend or you might feel unhappy and these emotions come out in anger. You may feel like your parents or carers don’t understand you or you might have confusions surrounding your sexuality. You may have experienced neglect or abuse (see our section on abuse).
It is important to recognise if you have anger problems to try and deal with the anger instead of letting it get worse and creating more problems for you that may be more serious such as addictions, eating disorders or self-harm.
When we get angry, the hormone adrenalin makes our teeth clench and our shoulders tense. You may feel your heart pump faster, your stomach might churn, your fists may clench and muscles tense. These are natural reactions and can be useful signals to warn us when we are getting worked up.
If you think you have anger problems there are suggestions for further help in the next section.
“Inside I felt bad about myself. When I lost my temper it felt like I was losing control. I was scared, but nobody knew – they were scared of me.”