Getting help

If you are worried about any aspect of your child’s behaviour at school, or if they are not going in, it is essential to talk to the school as soon as possible.

Parents and teachers will need to work together to sort out what is happening and to send the message to the child that school is important and there is a way through.

A home-school book can be a good way of keeping communication going so that everyone is informed. If you think your child may have learning difficulties you can ask for them to be assessed so that help is provided.

The school may involve the educational welfare officer and educational psychologist if your child is really distressed or defiant. If you are concerned about their mental health it is worth discussing it with the GP too, who can refer you to Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services if necessary.

If bullying is a concern, the school should have an anti-bullying policy in place which you can ask to see. If you are very unhappy with how the school is handling your child’s problems, you can contact the Advisory Centre for Education

YoungMinds Parents' Helpline can also talk through your concerns about your child's problems at school and make suggestions on how to get help.