Anxiety is a feeling of worry, fear or unease. It is often experienced as a combination of thoughts, feelings and physical sensations in our body.
All children and young people feel worried sometimes. This is a normal, human reaction to things that feel stressful. For example, before an exam a young person may feel more worried than usual. But they will soon feel calmer after the stressful event has passed.
Anxiety becomes a problem when a child or young person feels stuck in it. When this happens, it can become an overwhelming experience. It can also affect their daily life and limit the things they feel able to do.
If your child or young person is struggling with anxiety, there are things you can do to help them. We’ve got advice to help you provide reassuring support, work on strategies together and find professional help if they need it.
A child or young person may be anxious for different reasons. Feeling a bit more worried sometimes is normal and there is not always a clear reason for this. But if your child is feeling unmanageable amounts of anxiety, this is often a sign that something in their life isn’t quite right. They may need support to work out what the problem is.
This video by St Catherine's College is a useful way of understanding how stress and anxiety might build up in a person's life.
The following kinds of things can make some children and young people feel anxious:
Anxiety often affects our body, thoughts, feelings and behaviour. A child or young person who is struggling with anxiety may also behave differently or start using coping mechanisms to try to manage or avoid the anxiety. Below are some of the signs to look out for in children and young people.
In a very anxious moment, your child or young person may feel frightened or worried about having a panic attack. If this happens, focus on helping them to calm down and feel safe. The strategies below can help.
A hand with five fingers spread. A pointed finger shows instructions for moving around each finger with the words 'Breathe in' as you move upwards, and 'Breathe out' as you move downwards.
Together, hold your hands out in front of you. Trace the outline of each of your fingers slowly with your other hand. Breathe in as you go up each finger, and out as you come down. Move and breathe as slowly as feels comfortable. Over time, encourage your child or young person to breathe out for one or two counts longer than they breathe in. This can help their body to relax.
If you would like to have a copy of this technique with you, you can download and print our resource.
A picture of eyes, an ear, a hand, a nose and a mouth. Text reads next to each one: "5 things you can see. 4 things you can hear. 3 things you can touch. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste."
Connecting with what we can see, touch, hear, smell and taste is sometimes called ‘grounding’. Doing grounding techniques can make us feel more present and bring us back into our body. This can reduce the intensity of our anxiety. Think together about what they can see, touch, hear, smell and taste.
For example, they might notice: five different colours; four soft things in the room; three sounds like cars going past the window or the noise of the washing machine; two things they can smell, like a scented candle or a piece of fruit; and one thing they find soothing to eat.
If you would like to have a copy of this technique with you, you can download and print our resource.
Remember, you don’t need to do all of these things each time. Everyone is different, and it’s about figuring out which of these strategies suits them best.
After they have calmed down, it can help to remind them that the panicky feeling did not last forever. They were able to do things that helped and the feeling stopped.
As well as managing panicky moments, your child or young person can also learn how to deal with their anxiety over the longer-term.
Many of these strategies are about helping them to understand how their anxiety works and what helps them. The more confident they feel about this, the more they will believe in their ability to cope. This can make anxiety feel more manageable.
As you think about strategies you might try, always remind yourself you’re doing your best. It’s natural to feel a bit overwhelmed sometimes. But remember, you do not need to try five different things at once. Have a look through these suggestions and pick one or two things you think might help.
Ask them what it feels like in their mind and body. When they share something, remember to let them know their feelings are understandable. It can be tempting to dismiss or ‘fix’ their worries because you want to reassure them. But feeling listened to and understood can help them relax. You can find more tips on making your child feel really listened to in our blog.
What this could look like in real life: With a younger child, you could draw a stick person and ask them to add pictures to show you what their anxiety feels like. A teenager might like to make a mind map. They can put ‘anxiety’ in the middle of a page and write words around it that describe their experience.
I felt that we lost the idea that it’s important to validate their feelings rather than dismiss them. But I think this is a really important point that we shouldn’t lose
This could include a relationship, schoolwork or a combination of things. Are there changes that could be made at home or school that would make things easier?
What this could look like in real life: Ask them if they would like to do a ‘stress bucket’ activity with you. This lets them write down the things that make them feel anxious, and also the things that help.
Watch this video by St Catherine's College together first, which explains what the 'stress bucket' is. Then try doing our 'stress bucket activity', which you can download and print from our website. Work on it together, or encourage them to do it by themselves if they would prefer.
Anxiety might make them feel sick or make their heart race. If they can recognise these signs, they will know when they need to ask for help or do something to help themselves.
What this could look like in real life: Draw a stick person on a page. Then ask them to add pictures or words for the things that happen to their body when they’re getting anxious. Try to show you’re interested, curious and accepting about whatever they share.
In a calm moment, encourage them to write down a list of activities that help them feel better.
What this could look like in real life: Your child or young person could try:
I’ve found it helpful when talking about anxiety to think about achievable goals for overcoming worries that stop them from doing things, and then to create stages like a ladder to get to them.
This could be yoga, meditation, mindful colouring or something else. Remember that some people find these activities more helpful than others. Encourage your child or young person to decide what works for them.
What this could look like in real life: Teenagers might like to use a mindfulness or meditation app such as Headspace or Calm.
For younger children, you might be able to find guided meditations or relaxing music online. If you want to try one of these, check it out yourself before using it with them.
No, [yoga] didn’t fix the underlying issues (CAMHS did eventually). But it did give my daughter valuable coping strategies while waiting for her CAMHS appointment. Strategies that helped her to cope with trauma, anxiety and help her heal. She began practising yoga regularly and meditating in the evening; it made a huge difference.
They might find it helpful to write down their worries and put them in a worry box. This gives them a physical place where their worries can be ‘held’.
Or they might prefer to make a self-soothe box. This is something they can fill with items that help them when they feel anxious.
You can use our guide to making a worry box, or watch the video below to find out how to make a self-soothe box.
There are some daily activities that are really important for our mental health. These are:
They might sound simple, but they can have a big effect on our mood. Regular exercise can be particularly important because it can help to reduce feelings of anxiety in the body. It doesn’t have to be much – walking or gentle yoga can help.
If you have a teenager or young adult, reducing alcohol and caffeinated drinks such as coffee can help. This is because they can trigger the physical symptoms of anxiety.
You can help your child take their mind off their worries by having fun together and talking about other things.
What this could look like in real life: Try something that requires lots of focus. This can help to keep our mind on the present moment. You could play sport or a musical instrument, or do something creative like sewing.
Some children and young people will need support from a mental health professional. They may benefit from a specific diagnosis or a treatment such as talking therapy. You can find more information about this below.
Your GP can find out more about how your child or young person is feeling, and suggest things that might help. They can also let you know about local services that can provide support.
If your child or young person’s anxiety is more severe, the GP can make a referral to the NHS service for children and young people’s mental health. This is called CAMHS.
If they are referred, the type of support they are offered will depend on their age and experience.
You can find out more about speaking to the GP in our guide for parents and carers.
Counsellors and therapists can provide emotional support and help your child or young person to make sense of their feelings. They can also work with them to find things that help them cope. Therapists working with younger children will usually do this through play and arts activities such as painting, drawing and making things.
You can find out how your child or young person can access counselling or therapy in our guide for parents and carers.
If your child is struggling, it can help tell their school about what’s going on and what support they need. Depending on their age, it may be important to make sure your child feels some control over the information that’s shared about them. Ask them if there is someone who they would feel comfortable for you to speak to.
Alongside counselling, schools can often provide things like:
• support from the pastoral team
• mentoring
• peer buddying
• clubs and activities
If your child is feeling anxious about school at the moment, have a look at our guide for parents and carers.
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Founder Suzanne Alderson’s book Never Let Go - How to Parent Your Child Through Mental Illness (Penguin, 2020) outlines how she supported her daughter to recovery after she became depressed and suicidal.
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Call 01952 680835 for a recorded breathing exercise to help you through a panic attack (available 24/7).
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This page was reviewed in November 2023.
It was created with a parent or carer with lived experience of supporting their child or young person with anxiety.
We will next review the page in 2026.
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