Behavioural Problems
Many parents are concerned about their children’s behaviour. All children can be ‘badly behaved’ and disobedient at times, and this is part of their natural development - as they become more independent, they ‘test out’ their strength and new skills on their carers and friends.
Children and young people can also become more difficult following changes such as a house or school move as they struggle to settle down. Toddlers and teenagers can be particularly hard work.
All this opposition can be exhausting and frustrating for parents, and it can sometimes seem like parenting is a constant battle. But this behaviour does tend to go in phases and as children grow up and change most of them do become more reasonable.
Difficult behaviour
Some children, however, have real difficulties in regulating themselves, and can show difficult behaviour for long periods of time. Toddler tantrums can continue well into school years, and angry outbursts can become episodes where property gets broken or the child becomes physically violent.
Children may begin to lie or steal and sometimes deliberately break school or social rules. Older children may drink to excess, take illegal drugs or take sexual risks. Their behaviour is very distressing for their families and themselves, and can interfere with their school and social life.
Children may show these types of very difficult behaviour for many reasons. These include family problems, depression, and being the victims of bullying or abuse. It can also be due to learning or reading difficulties which cause low self-esteem and anger.
Another cause can be ‘hyperactivity’ or other neurological problems, where the child has problems controlling their impulses and paying attention, and may enjoy risk-taking behaviour.
What can I do?
If you are concerned that your child has behavioural problems it is important to seek help. Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services can assess your child and talk to the whole family about how to help. Strategies can be suggested which can help your child learn to regulate their behaviour.
If it is suspected that your child’s behaviour has learning difficulties or neurological problems as part of the cause, these can be investigated by the relevant professionals.
It is also important to talk to your child’s school and keep them informed. For more information, please contact YoungMinds Parents Information Service.
