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How I improved my relationship with gaming

4 min read
07 April 2021

Topics mentioned: gaming, anxiety

Author: Ffion, 21

About: When Ffion found her relationship with gaming was becoming an obsession, she decided to make a change. Here is her story of gaming and mental health.

I find gaming more relaxing now and I am not consumed like I once was.

In the past, there has been a lot of focus in the media on the negative effects of video games on our mental health and wellbeing. However, in recent years there has been a move towards considering the positive impacts of video gaming.

For example, shooter video games can improve your reasoning, spatial awareness and memory skills. Strategic video games can improve your problem-solving and creativity skills. Multiplayer games can improve your ability to communicate with others and can build up your teamwork skills. And, in my experience, playing video games can improve your mood and help you to relax and manage your anxiety.

In my experience, playing video games can improve your mood and help you to relax and manage your anxiety.

My relationship with gaming

Gaming played a large role in my life when I was young as I played games for fun, enjoyment and a way to relax after school. I especially loved Lego games, adventure games like Super Mario Galaxy and detective games. I loved the way I could watch a story unfold while also having the power to change the story and pick the responses that best suited my characters.

Unfortunately, a few years ago my relationship with gaming became less about enjoyment and more of an obsession. I used to spend hours playing games on my phone in my room away from my friends and family. I would also spend a lot of money on in-app purchases to level up my ability and receive bonuses. I found it very difficult to stop making these purchases and to put the phone away. It was difficult to focus my attention on anything else, so I decided to make a change.

I find gaming more relaxing now and I am not consumed like I once was.

Making a change

I began playing games on the computer that did not include in-app purchases. I spent time playing Nintendo games to regain the passion that I had as a child playing video games. By putting limits on my screen time, I am now back to a healthy relationship with gaming and have a happier outlook on life. I find gaming more relaxing now and I am not consumed like I once was. I have started to enjoy multiplayer games and strategy games like the ones I used to play when I was younger. I love how strategy games can keep my mind active and help me problem solve. I enjoy playing online multiplayer games with my friends as it has been a good way to keep in contact through lockdown.

I love immersing myself in the characters and environments of the video games I play. It is like I have opened a door to a new world that I can explore and forget about the life and environment that I am in. This has proved very useful when trying to relax after a stressful day of studying. I can forget about my worries and my anxieties through gaming, which has had a very positive impact on my life. I feel much happier about my gaming habits now and I have seen improvements in my mood as a result.

I find gaming more relaxing now and I am not consumed like I once was.

Unfortunately, a few years ago my relationship with gaming became less about enjoyment and more of an obsession.

More information and advice

Where to get help

  • Big Deal

    Offers information, advice and support for young people affected by problem gambling in England, Scotland and Wales.

    Free 24/7 1-2-1 live chat service available.

    For support outside of the helpline opening hours, call the National Helpline on 0808 8020 133.

    Opening times:
    9am - 8pm, Monday - Thursday
  • The Mix

    Free, short-term online counselling for young people aged 25 or under. Their website also provides lots of information and advice about mental health and wellbeing. 

    Email support is available via their online contact form.

    They have a free 1-2-1 webchat service available during opening hours.

    Opening times:
    4pm - 11pm, Monday - Friday
  • Childline

    If you’re under 19 you can confidentially call, chat online or email about any problem big or small.

    Sign up for a free Childline locker (real name or email address not needed) to use their free 1-2-1 counsellor chat and email support service.

    Can provide a BSL interpreter if you are deaf or hearing-impaired.

    Hosts online message boards where you can share your experiences, have fun and get support from other young people in similar situations.

    Opening times:
    24/7

Thanks for sharing your story Ffion, 21

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