Young people go through all kinds of changes as they grow up. These include moving into a new class, going to secondary school and moving to a new area.
Lots of children and young people will also experience family changes such as divorce or separation, having a new step-parent or sibling, or going through bereavement.
If your child is struggling to cope with a change, big or small, have a look at the practical tips we've got on this page. These can help you to feel more confident about supporting them.
Some changes can be exciting. But others can be stressful, worrying and upsetting.
Change can be more difficult when a young person:
A child or young person may also find change more difficult if they are already struggling with other things, such as anxiety, low-mood, problems at school or self-esteem issues.
Since the start of the Covid-19 pandemic, we have all experienced a lot of change. Children and young people had to get used to staying and learning at home. Then they had to adjust to coming out of lockdowns and being back at school. If they have gone through a bereavement or have a vulnerable family member, life might feel very different to how it was before. This will take time to process and understand.
Your child's experiences of the pandemic might have left them feeling more uncertain, anxious, low or angry. They may also be feeling less settled at school. Or, their behaviour at home might be more challenging.
If your child is struggling with the amount of change they've gone through since Covid, it can help to:
After so much change and disruption, we will all need different amounts of time to work things out. Reassure your child that they don’t have to do all the same things as other people, or compare themselves to others.
This includes regular times for going to bed, waking up, eating meals, spending time as a family and doing hobbies. Having routines like this can help young people to feel more safe and secure.
This shows you're there for them and can help them feel less alone. It could include going for a walk, enjoying a favourite film, cooking, drawing or spending time in nature. If they'd rather do these things alone, encourage them to find the things that help them. They can use our young person's guide to self-care to get started.
You know your child better than anybody else. Trust your instincts as a parent or carer if you notice changes in your child's behaviour that feel worrying. Remember that it’s important to act on warning signs if you do start to feel concerned.
Catherine, a volunteer on our Parents Helpline, shares her tips:
If you do see signs that are worrying you, it’s really important to try to talk to your child. Keep communicating with them in any way you can. This could be hugging, listening to them or texting. Just focus on keeping the line of communication open.
You can find more tips on talking to your child in our guide for parents.
As a parent, be part of the solution. There are a number of things you can do to support your child, whether that be helping them plan, problem-solve or develop a sense of hope for the future.
Jo, our Head of Parent Services, gives her top tips.
If your child is experiencing problems or going through significant change, it’s important that you can be an anchor for them.
Jo, our Head of Parent Services, gives her top tips.
It’s so important that you look after yourself so that you can look after your child.
Catherine’s tips:
Don’t blame yourself, it’s so easy to do but it’s not your fault. As a parent you can feel guilty all the time, but what is happening is happening and what’s really important is that you take care of yourself.
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We support parents and carers who are concerned about their child or young person's mental health. Our Parents Helpline provides detailed advice and information, emotional support and signposting.
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Digital support community and charity offering information, peer support, facilitated listening circles, mentoring and courses for parents of children with mental health difficulties.
Founder Suzanne Alderson’s book Never Let Go - How to Parent Your Child Through Mental Illness (Penguin, 2020) outlines how she supported her daughter to recovery after she became depressed and suicidal.
Provides information and support around family issues, as well as longer-term help through Befrienders and Counsellors.
Provides information about local counselling and advice services for young people aged 11-25.
Put in your location and what you need help with into their 'Find help' search, and see what services are available in your area.
If you’re under 19 you can confidentially call, chat online or email about any problem big or small.
Sign up for a free Childline locker (real name or email address not needed) to use their free 1-2-1 counsellor chat and email support service.
Can provide a BSL interpreter if you are deaf or hearing-impaired.
Hosts online message boards where you can share your experiences, have fun and get support from other young people in similar situations.
Provides information, support and advice for anyone struggling with anxiety.
Formerly known as MeeToo. A free app for teenagers (11+) providing resources and a fully-moderated community where you can share your problems, get support and help other people too.
Can be downloaded from Google Play or App Store.
A virtual friend for 8-11 year olds and their parents that helps families think about feelings and talk about difficult topics. Download the app.
Provides faith and culturally sensitive support for young Muslims.
Online chat service available during opening hours.
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